Q&A: How Do I Talk About My Mental Health?
A kinkster who’s been dealing with burnout, depression, and other personal stuff wonders how and when to bring up their mental health to a new partner. Here’s the question: My question is – as...
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Assertive Submissives
Assertive gets conflated with bratting, demanding, and/or unsubmissive-like behavior. And we fundamentally disagree, so let’s talk about it. In this episode: All of our Etsy shops are on sale thru the rest of the...
Q&A: How Do I Handle Having a Bad Local Community?
A newish kinkster live in an area with a local kink community they’re not comfortable being part of and driving to another area isn’t an option. Here’s the question: What do I do when...
Dominants and Communication
We didn’t know where this would go before we started other than saying, “Yes, Doms need to communicate effectively, too.” (Obviously.) JB shares his experiences as a Dom who has struggled to communicate in...
Q&A: How Can I Motivate My Dom to Bring D/s Out of the Bedroom?
In this week’s episode, a submissive wants to bring D/s out of the bedroom, but their Dom doesn’t seem motivated to try. Here’s the question: My husband (33m) and I (34f) have been together...
Old Relationship Energy in Power Exchange
You’ve probably heard of new relationship energy (NRE) but we’re more interested in the idea of old relationship energy. So let’s talk about it. In this episode We’re celebrating the Kinkery’s 4th anniversary with...
