Consent in Every Aspect of Life LB115
Consent is as important as it comes in BDSM and kink. We’ve talked about it before. But with the wider conversation in society right now, we thought it was important to discuss from a...
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Consent is as important as it comes in BDSM and kink. We’ve talked about it before. But with the wider conversation in society right now, we thought it was important to discuss from a...
[Content warning: We allude to or directly mention sexual assault, violence, and other situations that occur when consent is not given or gained. We do not describe any specific acts. Protect yourself as you...
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