Subspace LB146
How we managed to get so far and never discuss subspace as it’s own topic, I’ll never know. If you look below at the links, you’ll see all kinds of similar topics — drop,...
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Crying Good Tears After Your Kinky Fuckery or Scene LB145
Thank you ChintzCurtain for requesting this week’s topic. The specific request was to discuss a Dominant’s perspective on making a submissive cry “good” tears. Good is based on perspective, but this is about the...
6 Reactions You Might Experience in a BDSM Scene
Let’s start off with a few points of clarification on this one. One: Not everyone has a big reaction (emotional or otherwise) during their BDSM scene or kinky fuckery. And that’s okay. You can...
4 Risks We’ve Taken in BDSM — Before and After We Knew Better
For some people, risky sex is hot as hell. It turns them on, makes the sex better, and makes them feel alive. For people like me (who live in a near constant state of...
Supporting Dominants Through Tough Moments LB144
Everyone (on either side of the slash) goes through tough moments. In a power exchange, it can be difficult to know how to help or what to do when you’re a submissive. This doesn’t...
6 Ways Submissives Can Support Their Dominants in Tough Situations
In the BDSM world, at least our corner of it, we spend a lot of time talking about what Dominants can and should do for their submissives. That makes sense. Many submissives have consensual...
