Q&A: Is Punishment a Necessary Part of Power Exchange?
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They’ve renegotiated their power exchange and removed punishment, and they have questions about how their D/s is supposed to work without it.
Here’s the question:
My Dom and I have decided to start our dynamic again from scratch. We have renegotiated our power exchange and our limits and boundaries but have decided not to include punishments. I have anxiety where I fear being in trouble often so this seemed to be counterproductive as I would be actually in trouble and would heighten these feelings.
However now we have reached a place where my dom does not feel he can correct behavior he does not wish to see as there is no deterrent. Is punishment a necessary part of power exchange? And how do you remain dominant and in control when your submissive is allowed to break rules with no consequences?
Links from the episode:
Discipline, Punishment, and Consequences in D/s (episode 58)
How We Handle Punishment in Our Relationship (video)
Understanding Discipline and Punishment (blog post)
Understanding Positive Reinforcement (episode 94)
Positive Reinforcement (episode 262)
Training a Submissive in a D/s Relationship (episode 48)
5 Things You Need to Know About Submissive Training (video)
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