Jealousy in D/s Relationships LB148

by Kayla Lords · Published September 28, 2018 · Updated February 10, 2019

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Most of us use the term “jealousy” as a catch-all for worry, envy, insecurity and other negative feelings in a relationship. So let’s talk about what we mean when we say we’re feeling “jealous” and how we can deal with it in a D/s relationship.

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This episode was suggested by Precious who specifically asked about how Doms deal with jealous submissives, but it’s such a big topic, we didn’t want to focus on just that.
Jealousy impacts both sides of the D/s slash.
It’s a catch-all word we use, but there are two parts to it: envy and insecurity.
Envy isn’t just what you feel when you’re single and want a partner and everyone else has their perfect D or s. It happens in relationships too.
If you don’t talk about envy, it can fester and breed resentment — hurting your relationship.
Insecurity is much more common and tends to come from fear and bad tapes.
It can lead to dangerous, abusive situations though.