Understanding Bad Tapes in Your D/s Relationship LB101

13 Responses

  1. KateValentine says:

    Yea after listening to all the episodes i can certainly say that the quality of the show has improved by leaps and bounds 😉 As for my personal take on bad tapes… I tend to be kinda indifferent about it? Like i could talk about something horrible that has happened in my life and then 5 mins later happily chat about something completely different, as if the previous conversation never happened to begin with… -Shrugs-

    Anyhow, I’m looking forward to next weeks podcast!

    Cheers,
    Kate

    • Kayla Lords says:

      Thanks for listening! I like that you’re able to do that. I think on some things, I can too, but since they don’t bother me, I don’t think about them. 🙂

  2. rabbitheart says:

    Yes I have seen this in myself and my Sir. We’re all products of our experiences and we don’t stop to realize that sometimes those experiences will affect future interactions adversely. I think I will in the future step back when I have a strong emotional reaction and try to find the root cause of the feelings. I hadn’t thought about it like this before so I really appreciate this!!!! 🙂

    • Kayla Lords says:

      I think it’s pretty common but thinking about it in a new way helps provide extra perspective. Glad we were able to do that! 🙂

  3. Diann says:

    What do you mean by “tapes”?

    • Kayla Lords says:

      In the episode we explain it — these are the bad memories and experiences that stay with us even when we move on from a relationship or a moment in time. They re-play in our head, especially when triggered by something happening in the moment, and we react to the situation as if it’s the old memory.

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