Understanding D/s Contracts LB064

by Kayla Lords · Published November 25, 2016 · Updated February 15, 2020

Kayla Lords and John Brownstone are together again for episode 64 of Loving BDSM. This week, they’re discussing D/s contracts.

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What is a contract?
A D/s contract isn’t required in a D/s relationship.
A lot of submissives wonder if they should have them. They send emails saying their Dominant partners don’t want one.
Having a contract requires negotiation and what goes into the contract requires negotiation.
Don’t expect your contract to hold up in a court of law, but be careful what you put in it – just in case.
A contract can be as simple as a written list of everything you both agree to or it can be as elaborate as you want it to be.
Think about the reasons why you want a D/s contract. Thinking you’re “supposed” to have one isn’t usually enough of a reason.
If your partner resists the idea of a contract, hear them out and then decide if that’s a reason you can live with.
This isn’t a time when a Dom saying, “Because I said so” is good enough. There should be a reason given.