Dealing with Drop for Subs and Doms LB039

by Kayla Lords · Published May 27, 2016 · Updated February 10, 2019

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Kayla Lords and John Brownstone are together for episode 39 discussing both sub drop and Dom drop (yes, that’s a real thing): what it feels like, how to handle it, and how to help your partner.

In this episode:

An amazing weekend quickly turned into the worst sub and Dom drop…ever.
The details are still private but the affects were awful.
Dom drop is just as real as sub drop.
Sub space isn’t a prerequisite to dropping. It happens when the emotions/endorphins/adrenaline are very high.
Drop doesn’t happen after every scene or every big moment.
Everyone experiences drop differently: physically, emotionally, and mentally. Drop will be different for you each time you have it.
Whether you’re a sub or Dom, you need to talk about how you feel and be honest with your partner.
Taking care of each other will help you get through it.
Aftercare helps, but it’s not always enough.
Sticking with your routine is good, but leave some room for indulgences.
Check in with each other and talk as much as you can.
This isn’t the time to be stoic and pretend you’re okay.