When Your Kinky Wants and Needs Change LB055

by Kayla Lords · Published September 23, 2016 · Updated February 10, 2019

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Kayla Lords and John Brownstone host episode 55 and talk about how expectations, wants, and needs in your D/s relationship can change over time – and what to do when that happens. And they clear up what all that “edging” was about at the end of episode 54.

In this episode:

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I asked for a change in something John Brownstone said was a “must have” of us, and he agreed to consider it.
Over time, what you want, need, and expect in your D/s relationship can and will change.
Changes happen for a lot of reasons. We change because the reality vs. the fantasy is never the same. We change because we mature. We change because of health issues.
The important thing is to communicate your desire or need for that change with your partner.
If your partner asks for something you’re not comfortable doing, you can look for options outside of your relationship.
If your partner says “No” to the change you’re asking for, you’ll have to decide if it’s something you can live without or not. There are no easy answers.
Communication is always the starting point. Understanding, compromise, and sometimes trust are needed to deal with the changes.
Bonus section: An idea occurred to me during this portion, and I reeeeeeeeally need your feedback.