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We are John Brownstone (the Dom) and Kayla Lords (the sub), a married D/s couple, sharing our thoughts, feelings, and experiences on this thing we call BDSM.
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Spend any amount of time online or in some local kink communities, and you’ll come across someone with an opinion of what makes you a “real” kinkster. Or someone who devises ridiculous hoops to...
7 Safeword Tips to Keep in Mind Before, During, and After You Get Kinky | 30 Days of D/s
We believe every kinkster should have a safeword. Yes, we know, some people don’t “believe” in them (safewords aren’t unicorns or fairies, so “belief” isn’t really a factor, is it?), but for new partnerships...
Our Thoughts on Your Unpopular BDSM Opinions
In this week’s episode, we’re taking inspiration from YouTube — and reacting to your unpopular opinions! We asked for these opinions on Instagram, YouTube, and Patreon. In this episode: Enter the BDSM Contracts giveaway!...
Minisode 21: Humiliation Play Tips
Humiliation play is a mutual kink of ours, though we tend to stick with the lighter end of the spectrum. We’ve discussed it in detail in past episodes, but this week, we’re sharing five...
