Our Favorite Impact Play Toys
Impact play, the act of consensually spanking, striking, or hitting a partner, is one of our top kinks. In our hierarchy of kinks, it comes right after the need for power exchange. So yeah,...
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WHAT DO WE DO ?
We help kinksters like you have happy, healthy power exchange relationships. No matter how you define BDSM and no matter what kind of kinky relationship you want, we’re here to help!
WHO ARE WE ?
We are John Brownstone (the Dom) and Kayla Lords (the sub), a married D/s couple, sharing our thoughts, feelings, and experiences on this thing we call BDSM.
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Minisode 35: Funishment Basics
We recently did a longer podcast episode on funishment. For those who want the Tl;dr, here are five tips and things to know about funishment if you’re trying it for the first time. A...
Kinky Experiences That Aren’t Subspace | 30 Days of D/s
Subspace, for some people, is the pinnacle of a kink scene. It’s the ultimate sign of a mind-blowing (or mind-altering) experience. And while subspace can be an amazing moment for many people, it’s not...
Green Flags in Power Exchange Relationships
We spend a lot of time talking about what goes wrong in a power exchange relationship and what to watch out for. This week, we’re talking about the good stuff, green flags that indicate...
5 Signs You’re in Subfrenzy | 30 Days of D/s
We’ve talked a LOT about subfrenzy around here. For good reason: when in the throes of it, submissives can put themselves in dangerous situations or misread reality. Sometimes it’s harmless, and a submissive is...
Kinksters React to Vanilla Relationship Reddit
Consider this another experiment. We enjoy doing the BDSM Reddit reactions, but we wondered what it would be like to react to vanilla relationship questions from Reddit. Spoiler alert: there’s no major change in...
