How Do I Make Sure My Submissive Needs Are Fulfilled?
This week, we answer a question that a lot of submissives have at some point in their kink life — how to get your own needs fulfilled while fulfilling your Dominant’s needs, too. Here’s...
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Silliness and Playfulness in D/s Relationships
I (Kayla) am often in a silly, goofy mood, and thankfully JB either is or will play along. So let’s talk about it from a power exchange perspective. In this episode There are several...
How Can I Be Vulnerable With New Dom After Bad Vanilla Break-up?
It’s our first Q&A episode! These will be short episodes that focus on a single question that we’ll answer with our D/s perspective. Here’s the question we received: “I recently got out of a...
Top 10 Kinkiest States, Sex Toys, and Fetishes
This week, we’re talking about the results of a “survey/study” we received from Kinky Cloth. They used Google search data to figure out the kinkiest states in the US, as well as the most...
BDSM Reddit Response
Another week, another BDSM Reddit response episode — and this one has some heavy topics. Including one that comes with a content warning. If that section is something you want to avoid, skip ahead...
Navigating Stress Before It Happens in D/s Relationships
(UPDATE: We no longer endorse TJ) This week’s episode is brought to you by our own personal stressors and more inspiration from Therapy Jeff! We’ve mentioned in the past that – when you can...
