Q&A: When is the Right Time to Meet in Real Life?
A kinkster wants to know when the right time is to take things from dating apps or Fetlife to in person. Here’s the question: How do I know when to move from a dating...
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We help kinksters like you have happy, healthy power exchange relationships. No matter how you define BDSM and no matter what kind of kinky relationship you want, we’re here to help!
WHO ARE WE ?
We are John Brownstone (the Dom) and Kayla Lords (the sub), a married D/s couple, sharing our thoughts, feelings, and experiences on this thing we call BDSM.
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Answering Cute and Spicy Questions
This week, we’re answering several “cute and spicy” relationship questions. (UPDATE: We no longer endorse TJ.) In this episode: There’s still time to sign up for Jumpstart Your BDSM Journey! We’ve added new products...
Q&A: How Do I Trust My Dom Again?
A submissive has gone through a lot with their Dominant partner with consent violations, a broken D/s agreement, and just being made to feel awful. And they want to know if it’s possible to...
Radical Honesty in Power Exchange
A moment when Kayla admitted wrongdoing has us thinking about the concept of “radical honesty” which potentially has a deeper meaning for kinksters in general. In this episode Register for the free and online...
Q&A: How Do I Tell My Partner I Want to Switch?
A submissive who was once the Dominant in their power exchange wants to add their Dom energy back to the dynamic but isn’t sure how to talk to their partner about it. Here’s the...
Needing External Motivation in Power Exchange
External (extrinsic) motivation is about doing something because of outside expectations – your partner set a task, you were asked to do something, etc. It might be something you know needs to be done,...
