This week, a kinkster is figuring out their switchy self but isn’t sure how to navigate wanting different things in different ways than their partner. Here’s the question: My husband and I have been...
A kinkster wants to know when the right time is to take things from dating apps or Fetlife to in person. Here’s the question: How do I know when to move from a dating...
by Kayla Lords · Published July 19, 2024 · Last modified April 22, 2026
This week, we’re answering several “cute and spicy” relationship questions. (UPDATE: We no longer endorse TJ.) In this episode: There’s still time to sign up for Jumpstart Your BDSM Journey! We’ve added new products...
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by Kayla Lords · Published July 12, 2024 · Last modified July 11, 2024
A moment when Kayla admitted wrongdoing has us thinking about the concept of “radical honesty” which potentially has a deeper meaning for kinksters in general. In this episode Register for the free and online...
External (extrinsic) motivation is about doing something because of outside expectations – your partner set a task, you were asked to do something, etc. It might be something you know needs to be done,...
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