We receive a lot of questions from submissives, Dominants, and other kinksters who want to know if something is normal or how to do something in their D/s relationship. For years we answered these questions privately, but now we answer them in blog posts and podcast episodes. (All questions remain anonymous with identifying details removed.)
If you have a question about D/s relationships, BDSM, or kink, someone else has likely wondered the same thing. Use this area to find answers to your burning questions. If you have a question you’d like us to answer, contact us here.
by Kayla Lords · Published January 19, 2026 · Last modified January 16, 2026
Nothing about this question sounded like financial Domination – we read it as someone being an asshole. That being said, sometimes you do spend money to meet up with a partner and/or get kinky....
by Kayla Lords · Published January 12, 2026 · Last modified January 9, 2026
This week, a kinkster asked their exes to remove intimate pictures from Fetlife, and those exes got angry about the situation. This kinkster wonders if their anger was fair or reasonable. Here’s the question:...
by Kayla Lords · Published January 9, 2026 · Last modified January 8, 2026
Happy New Year! We’re back from our winter break and starting 2026 with a Reddit response episode! In this episode: Thanks to silentwinged for sending over most of these Reddit posts. Am I the...
by Kayla Lords · Published January 5, 2026 · Last modified January 9, 2026
A kinkster hasn’t had a great time with a kinky friend, but they miss the friendship they had at one time. Here’s the question: My question is related to BDSM but it’s about a...
They’re in a long distance relationship and each have their own partners and lives to balance. They want to know how to have a playful power exchange when they can’t be together. Here’s the...
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