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5 Signs You’re in Subfrenzy | 30 Days of D/s

We’ve talked a LOT about subfrenzy around here. For good reason: when in the throes of it, submissives can put themselves in dangerous situations or misread reality. Sometimes it’s harmless, and a submissive is...

episode 282 of the Loving BDSM podcast

Kinksters React to Vanilla Relationship Reddit

Consider this another experiment. We enjoy doing the BDSM Reddit reactions, but we wondered what it would be like to react to vanilla relationship questions from Reddit. Spoiler alert: there’s no major change in...

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Our Favorite Vibrators for Forced Orgasms

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Minisode 33: Face Slapping

In this week’s minisode, we’re discussing a favorite kink of ours: face slapping! If you’re new to it and want to explore with a partner, these are a few quick tips to keep in...

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What is Orgasm Control? | 30 Days of D/s

Beyond “one of our [JB and Kayla] favorite ways to play with kink,” orgasm control is exactly as labeled: yielding control of one’s orgasms to someone else. In power exchange this often looks like...

episode 281 of the Loving BDSM podcast

Vulnerability and Power Exchange

We’ve mentioned this topic so many times in the past, but we’re finally talking about it: the importance of vulnerability in power exchange. Our definition and view of vulnerability comes from Brene Brown’s talks,...