Q&A: How Can I Motivate My Dom to Bring D/s Out of the Bedroom?

by Kayla Lords · Published October 28, 2024 · Updated October 27, 2024

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In this week’s episode, a submissive wants to bring D/s out of the bedroom, but their Dom doesn’t seem motivated to try.

Here’s the question:

My husband (33m) and I (34f) have been together for 14 years. I realized that I was kinky about 3 years ago and he’s been gladly along for the ride as long as sex is involved. He is a fantastic dom to me for kinky fuckery, but taking the D/s beyond the bedroom is challenging for him. I’ve spoken with him about this and even given suggestions of things I could do to serve him during the day, but I’m always the one to request and if I don’t say anything, nothing happens. I mentioned to him the power behind “do this for me” requests, but he hasn’t taken any action with that. We have started a routine with maintenance spankings, not connected to sex, which is a good step in the right direction. I guess I’m looking for conversation starters to help motivate my Dom to bring D/s outside the bedroom.