Q&A: Am I an Unreliable Dominant?

by Kayla Lords · Published September 2, 2024 · Updated September 2, 2024

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This week, a Daddy Dom worries that they aren’t being a good Dom because they promise fuckery at the end of the day and then change their mind.

Here’s the question:

Am I unreliable or considerate?

I am struggling with my confidence as a Daddy Dom. I feel like I might be unreliable or unbelievable. My wife and I are in a 24/7 power exchange. I find myself telling her that I want us to do something before we go to bed and by the time we get there it’s extra late or she is exhausted or life just happens. At that point I normally say that we will skip that thing and it’s not a big deal because sleep is more important.

On one hand I feel like it makes me seem like I keep going back on my word or I won’t follow through. On the other hand, I feel like it’s just being considerate and looking out for my wife/sub’s best interest. It’s a big struggle and I feel like I may not be cut out to be a Dom.

How do you view these conflicting thoughts? What advice do you have? (For context we have 3 kids ages 15, 13, and 9 who are involved in sports and school activities. We discovered D/s in 2020 and it has been the best thing for us)