How Do I Negotiate When They Want to Experiment With Kink?

by Kayla Lords · Published December 11, 2023 · Updated December 10, 2023

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In this week’s episode, someone asks how to negotiate with someone who doesn’t even really know if they like kink yet.

Here’s the question:

Hey long time listener enjoying most of your long ones and shorts. I learned kink and BDSM after my divorce from the ground up, meaning talking about boundaries and limits, yes no lists, and whatnot.
Lately I have come into contact with some people who are newer and haven’t experienced much. A lot of the stuff [they want] is, “Let me have a “taste” to see if I like it.”

How would you advise going into a negotiation like that and better using the tools that I picked up from you and others over the past two years?

Here’s what we think…