Approaching Partners with Ideas Not Expectations


Quenby (they/them) is a queer writer, artist, and activist based in the UK. Their work explores themes of gender, kinky sexuality, and identity through an eclectic array of creative queer chaos. You can find them on social media @QuenbyCreatives or check out their work at

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  1. minnie says:

    I love this idea. We did something very similar while building a 24/7 power-exchange. We even went as far as to preference something by starting it was either an idea, a suggestion, or a wondering. In that way it just opened up discussions and conversations without ceasing pretence.

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