Taking Care of Each Other When You’re Apart

by Kayla Lords · Published August 2, 2019 · Updated August 1, 2019

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(Some) Dominants want to protect their partner, and (some) submissives want to take care of their partner. But when you have to be apart — either temporarily or as part of a long distance relationship — it can be tough. We share our thoughts on how to take care of each other in your D/s relationship even when you’re separated by miles.

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Question from listener on how to “protect” their partner while not out to their family, working a dangerous job, and they’ll be apart for a few months: “so much of her life is out of my control. This drives me absolutely crazy with worry, and also makes me feel useless as a dom. Who am I if not her protector? What can I do about this? She’s 3 years older than me, and by all means can take care of herself, but I still feel like I’m not doing my job.”
Conversation with submissive who worried about her Dom who went silent — a few things she did to make sure he was okay.
Keep lines of communication open.
Learn how to listen. Offer advice when requested — just like touching someone, offering advice needs the consent of the other person.
Be supportive.
Lean into your D/s if either of you find that it helps alleviate stress.