4 Risks We’ve Taken in BDSM — Before and After We Knew Better

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  1. toyforsir says:

    I met a man on fetlife. We talked alot and eventually started texting and phone calls. He moved around a lot. This wasnt a red flag but I did notice he was getting closer to me. I was new to fetlife. He was the first person I started talking to. He said he would mentor and train me. I was excited. He gave me small things to do which usually involved masterbating at work etc. Still he seemed nice and genuine. I asked if he had kids. He said two that he knew of. That is an old joke but he seemed serious. He later said he probably had 10 or so children scattered all over. Light red flag. Then he called one day and said he and a friend were coming to get me for the weekend that my training was about to kick up a notch. Flaming red flag! I blocked him on everything but I still worry about all the information I gave him and how easy it would be for him to find me with very little effort.

    • Kayla Lords says:

      While there’s always the risk of that, I’m happy that you recognized the red flags and did what you needed to do to keep yourself safe.

  2. Sometimes it’s scary to think back on the mistakes of the past, but it’s great to share those experiences with others so (hopefully) they don’t make the same mistakes!

  3. Molly says:

    I have definitely done the playing on a first date thing and never regretted it but I would always advise against it. I guess that is a case of do what say not what I do

    Molly

  4. May More says:

    This is a great post – you have told us what is best and how you did different – excellent – but that is life – we often don’t follow the “rules” – I have been very lucky in the past when i haven’t followed the rules – but if I were talking to my kids I would want them to play safe for sure 😉

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