Is BDSM Good For Your Mental Health? LB077

by Kayla Lords · Published March 3, 2017 · Updated January 3, 2020

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Kayla Lords and John Brownstone are together again for episode 77 and they’re taking on a big topic: BDSM and mental health. Consider this the first of what will certainly be many conversations about the topic.

In this episode:

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We’re finally tackling a topic people have asked us to do for weeks and months: BDSM and mental health.
This is just the first in what will likely be many conversations and you have to start somewhere.
The main question we’re asking – is BDSM good for your mental health?
Personally, I felt like I made more since once I discovered kink and BDSM.
Old stereotypes about BDSM include that all of us are either abused or abusers at some point in life. Not true!
Abuse happens (unfortunately) and some abuse survivors use kink to heal, help, or just to be happy. But that’s true in every walk of life.
Studies show that BDSM might be better for us than we realized.
Does BDSM actually help our mental health? Sometimes, yes.
Kinky acts can help some of us with some mental health issues – spankings, S&M, bondage can alleviate feelings of anxiety for some of us.
BDSM is good for your mental health if you’re in a safe, solid, stable relationship; it is not good for your mental health if you’re in a bad relationship, a chaotic situation, or have little support.
I cannot be “dommed” out of anxiety or bipolar disorder but structure helps.
Submissives aren’t the only ones who have mental health issues. Dominants do, too.
Sometimes we don’t need domination or submission, just for someone to be there for us and tell us they still love us.
No one should be ashamed to seek help, especially if your kinky acts are no longer helping if they once did. There’s no shame in taking medication if you need it, either.
We’ve got a small announcement and postcards in the bonus section!