Signs of a Bad or Failing D/s Relationship LB047

by Kayla Lords · Published July 29, 2016 · Updated February 10, 2019

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Kayla Lords hosts episode 47, and it focuses on a lot of emails and messages that have come through about what’s okay and what’s not in a D/s relationship.

In this episode:

No John Brownstone for another week – but it’s his last week on the crazy summer schedule at work, so he’ll be back soon.
A lot of emails have come through from both Doms and subs with questions about their relationships.
Even if you don’t want to admit it to yourself, you know when a relationship has gone bad.
It requires both of you working together to figure out a way forward.
Here are some signs of a bad D/s relationship – and yes, some will look like “red flags” that we’ve discussed before.
Unwilling to communicate
Changing the rules with no warning
Punishing without explaining
Saying things like “I’m the Dom, I can do what I want” with no negotiation or consent
Doubts about opening up your relationship but feeling like you have no choice
Emotional manipulation which isn’t the same as a mindfuck
Lying
Wanting two incompatible things and not willing or able to find a middle ground
It’s better to be alone than in a bad relationship. If you can’t make it work, have the strength to walk away.
Yes, submissives can end a relationship.