Consent Is More Than Yes or No in BDSM LB030

by Kayla Lords · Published March 25, 2016 · Updated January 3, 2020

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John Brownstone joins Kayla Lords for episode 30 and this week’s topic is a big one: consent. Join them in a long and winding conversation about what consent means and look like in a D/s relationship.

In this episode:

Special shout-out to Tumblr follower, Ruth Kay, for inspiring the episode.
Kayla says one word that is a favorite of some listeners.
John Brownstone discusses consent when a submissive is drunk.
Consent is more than yes or no.
Informed consent means understanding what is will happen, communicating what won’t happen, and understanding how toys or implements will feel before they are used.
What does implied consent mean?
In a 24/7 power exchange relationship, Dominants may have permission to take what they want, but it doesn’t mean they always should.
Dominants have a responsibility to their submissives well-being and health – mental, emotional, and physical.
Submissives have a responsibility to communicate how they feel, if they’re upset or sick, and anything else that may affect a Dominant’s decision.
Consent requires a certain amount of trust.
Communication and consent go hand-in-hand.
Dominants are able to withdraw their consent by ending a scene or refusing to engage in certain activities.
Basically, there’s much more to consent than yes or no.