Setting a Kinky Scene LB085

by Kayla Lords · Published June 2, 2017 · Updated February 10, 2019

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This week, we’re answering a listener question with more details than they actually asked for. The original question was about how to set up a scene. In our opinion, a scene is whatever you make it, so it doesn’t have to be elaborate or high protocol. For us, we call most of our scenes “playtime.”

In this episode:

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Kinky Book Club is a real live thing!
Is there a difference between a scene and “playtime?”
Scenes can be rigid, filled with protocol, and elaborate…or not.
Playtime, for us, is whatever we do that’s kinky – with or without sex.
Some scenes are roleplay.
Mind fucks can be a scene.
Scenes or playtime all require communication and negotiation.
Knowing your partner’s limits before you plan the scene is important.
Talking about the details doesn’t take away the hotness.
Scenes can be as basic or as detailed as you want.
It’s important to go with the flow. Not all scenes will go as you imagined.
Be flexible, communicate, use safewords, and watch your partner.