Q&A: What Happens If You Can’t Agree That a Sub Broke a Rule?
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A sassy switch has a partner who pushes the boundaries as a brat, and they’re not sure how to handle potential broken rules.
Here’s the question:
My boyfriend (53m) and I (38 transmasc / nb) are both on the sassy-bratty switch spectrum. We’re both very new to power exchange. We’re in the beginning of negotiating our dynamic, and I’m stuck on my D/ rule definitions.
For instance, he enjoys argumentative debate more than I do. I want to use funishments to navigate our differences in this area, but he can get extra bratty with malicious compliance sometimes.
Should I try to define “disrespect” in detail, or should I wait until things come up and build the definition through lived experience? Both? Something else? And, when we disagree about whether he’s broken the “be respectful” rule, do you have any tips for navigating discussion?
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