Q&A: How Can My Dom Become Comfortable Initiating Free Use?

by Kayla Lords · August 12, 2024

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After life got in the way, this kinky couple is ready to get back to their fuckery – including free use – but the Dominant partner isn’t initiating, even after plenty of communication.

Here’s the question:

My husband and I have been together for around 2 years. We started our relationship with me as a dom and him as my submissive. We have both been in the lifestyle for the best part of 10 years. However, over time we realized that we fit into the alternate role much easier and so he is now my daddy dom.

To begin with we engaged in our mutual loves of bondage, tickling, free use and cockwarming. Recently life has been doing its thing and we’ve not engaged in much kink. We’ve had many in depth conversations about how initiating is now one of his responsibilities, but still to no avail.

Recently he has asked for more scenes but I don’t know how to explain again that if he wants free use he has to just do it, if he wants head he needs to ask for it. How do I explain this when my previous attempts have been unsuccessful.