Burnout in Power Exchange and Kink

by Kayla Lords · Published February 25, 2022 · Updated February 24, 2022

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Towards the end of 2021, we both admitted to each other we were starting to feel burnt out – in our power exchange! While our relationship wasn’t the source of the burnout, it could have been a casualty of it. We’re sure we’re not alone, so let’s talk about it.

In this episode:

Kayla’s book-themed (non-kinky) Etsy shop is “sponsoring” the episode.
Yes burnout can happen in kink and to kinksters
We recommend reading Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski
- Kayla read it to help have this conversation.
We’ve each been through burnout before but not in kink
Right before the holidays, we both admitted we were on the verge of it
What can cause burnout – in our experience and from reading Burnout
- Overwhelming stress and exhaustion
- Not feeling appreciated/respected
- Feeling like nothing you do matters
How near-burnout impacted our power exchange
How to handle burnout
- Read Burnout
- Complete the stress cycle – deal with the stress even if you can’t deal with the stressor
- Figure out if you should give up or persist
- Find meaning

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