Tips for Using Cam Sites to Explore Your Kinks
We often recommend watching porn or reading erotica as a way to get an idea of what kinks you might be into. We also often have to remind people that what you’re watching and reading aren’t real.
Reading books and watching movies can only get you so far. Eventually you need something more hands-on. But in a time like the one we’re living through now (the plague is still upon us), that can be impossible. And some kinksters who might be willing to meet people in real life or even just watch a demo in a dungeon, don’t always have access.
Cam sites can be a great in-between, at least to figure out what turns you on. (Pro tip: Don’t treat watching someone get kinky on camera as a replacement for hands-on learning you need to do the activity yourself.)
Why cam sites? Because there are so many of them with plenty of people doing all kinds of sexy, kinky, and “depraved” things for viewers. You’re bound to find someone who’s depicting the fuckery you want to try for yourself.
Plus, unlike a video that’s recorded and uploaded, a cam model that you form a professional relationship with may be able to tailor their content to your specific requests. That means you can get deeper into the fantasy and explore a little further.
If you’re visiting cam sites for the first time, here are some tips to keep in mind.
Think About What Turns You On
This might be the easiest part. You’re probably already thinking about it nonstop. And if not, consider this permission (as if you needed it) to fantasize, watch a little porn, read some smut, and figure out what turns you on.
You’re going to need to narrow down your search a bit, so focus on the kinks that feel the strongest for you first. Or if you don’t even know what turns you on, the kinks you hear about the most: spanking, bondage, etc.
Pick a Cam Site
There are literally thousands (millions?) of cam sites and models online. You can go to a site like Chaturbate or you can finally subscribe to a kink model you love on Twitter who has an OnlyFans account. There’s no right or wrong site to use – as long as the content isn’t stolen, and creators get paid for their work.
The real problem may be in trying to decide which site to use.
Scroll Until Someone Appeals to You
We’ve all heard the, “Don’t judge a book by it’s cover” thing, and it’s true. But on a cam site with literally hundreds of choices, you have to narrow it down somehow.
Look for profiles that appeal to you. Look for people, body types, or activities that get your attention. You’re not shaming anyone here by liking what you like. And hell, many cam models spend a lot of time designing profiles to appeal to kinky fuckers like you. Make sure their effort was worth it.
Read The Rules
Cam sites tend to have some basic rules everyone needs to follow. Read them.
Cam models often have their own rules, too. Read those twice. And then, most importantly, follow the rules.
If they don’t take special requests, don’t hound them with a request. If they require money before they’ll do certain kinky things, pay them. To have a good kink experience online, you need to be a respectful participant. Part of that means following the rules.
Pay for Special Requests
Even if the a model’s rules don’t explicitly require it, it’s always a good idea to pay for special requests. They specialize in your kink of choice – say, impact play. You like what they do, but you really want to see something else. Like…a caning while they wear nipple clamps and scream, “Mommy” over and over. Or, ya know, whatever else you might want to see.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to see a specific scene (assuming the model(s) consent to it) but they’re working here. This is their job. So you should pay them for the time and effort.
Clearly their work has value to you or you wouldn’t want to see more of it. Just pair the value of your desires with the value of actual money.
Tip When Possible
Really enjoyed that cock and ball torture scene you just watched online? Tip the creators.
Loved all the edging, forced orgasms, and rainstorm-level ejaculation and squirting? Tip them.
Yes, models perform for your pleasure. And just like some submissives (ahem, like myself) love to thank their partner for a satisfying scene, there’s nothing wrong with you thinking the online creator who just provided this experience.
But, like I mentioned before, because this is their job, the best way to thank them is with cold, hard cash. (Or cold, hard encrypted credit card payments.)
Treat the models working cam sites like you would treat anyone you meet in person – with respect. These are professionals providing a service; a service that will help you get off, figure yourself out a bit, and find new kinks to explore. And that service always deserves more respect than it gets.
Cam sites can be a great way to explore your kinks and desires. You may be surprised at what turns you on that you didn’t even know was a thing until you started watching fuckery online.
This post sponsored by Designurbate.