Managing Your Expectations in Your D/s Relationship

by Kayla Lords · May 29, 2020

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There’s the fantasy of our BDSM life or power exchange relationship, and then there’s the reality. When our expectations aren’t realistic, we spend our time disappointed or disillusioned. In this week’s episode, we talk about a few common expectations people have about what their D/s relationship “should” be like. We also share our thoughts on how to deal with them.

In this episode:

Announcements: Friday night hang-out on YouTube and Saturday celebration live stream
Certain expectations should be a given — consent, willingness to communicate, respect. You should expect those things, and if you don’t receive those things, there’s a serious problem.
Expectation: Always feeling your Dom or sub self
Expectation: Adjusting to a new D/s relationship at the same pace as your partner
Expectation: Your partner understanding your unspoken submission or dominance
Expectation: Thinking you’ll always want the same thing from your D/s
Expectation: A Dom always has all the answers
Expectation: Submissives always want to serve all the time
Expectation: My partner should just “know”