Anal Sex Basics and Beyond

15 Responses

  1. maryann says:

    i had no idea how much i would emjoy anal sex when my current stud at that time suggested it out of fear i declined it came up again and i tried foundit very stimulating

  2. May More says:

    Great article – Lube and being clean so important as u say… I have had good anal and bad – the trouble is the bad has put me off a little, really should write a post about it. Its a shame as my man likes anal and we do not engage in it often because of my past experience with an ex.

  3. Molly says:

    Lube, lube and more lube, you are so right about this


  4. Great post, as usual. I agree that lube is important, though unfortunately I have had the displeasure of receiving anal without. I look forward to trying it with a better partner, someone that I actually trust.

  5. Cara Thereon says:

    I like the stress on the lube. I’m learning to be less hung up on the mess so it doesn’t stop my enjoyment, but I totally get the reluctance.

    • Kayla Lords says:

      If it didn’t fuck with my head so much and take away from the fun, I’d be more into it. It was one of those things where I had to decide if it was worth it, and it just wasn’t. If I can ever relax a little more, I’ll give it another go, lol.

  6. Bee says:

    I wish I could get over my freak out. I love anal so much but, or should that be butt, I’m so terrified of a poop discovery I just freeze up!

    • Kayla Lords says:

      Hehehe, “butt”….and I feel the same way. It feels really good but my anxious brain can’t let go of the worry.

  7. Sweetgirl says:

    I have to admit I’m in the love it camp. It sends me straight to subspace for MrH to use me this way. Now I do have a douche that I use before play if MrH has told me he intends to include anal play in a scene. This isn’t something he requires me to do, rather it’s something I do to put my mind at ease – that I am as clean and prepared as possible.

    Of course the other very important thing that perhaps goes without saying is “condom’s’ should be used during anal intercourse, especially if you plan to penetrate vaginally too… The condom should be removed after anal penetration and before vaginal penetration to prevent cross infection. Going back and forth?? You’re going to need a fresh condom for each entry…

    • Kayla Lords says:

      I wish that part went without saying but too many people try to do what they see in porn and, thankfully I’ve followed smart sex educators who teach their audiences (including me) to NOT do that.

      Feeling clean is what always put me at ease too, until my anxious brain got fixated on the idea that I was never clean enough. Ugh. But the rest was pretty good, even if I’m not a big fan of anal. 🙂

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