4 Ways to Use Blindfolds In Your BDSM Scene
Blindfolds have become so common that some people don’t even consider them kinky. To some, it’s kind of “kink-light.” But we agree with Molly Moore, over at Kink of the Week, who points out that anything can be kinky if you decide that it is. To prove it – and to provide scene ideas as requested by readers and members – we’re sharing a few potential scenes using blindfolds.
As with anything, take as much or as little from this as suits your personal tastes. Mix and match these ideas together or just let it be the inspiration for something else. The whole point is to see how blindfolds can be incorporated into whatever kinky thing you want to do.
Control over your partner’s senses is more powerful than you realize. As long as everyone consents, you can add a blindfold to nearly anything you do to heighten everything they experience.
Sensual Touch
It’s a common scene – a person, tied to a bed, a blindfold covering their eyes, waiting. Just…waiting. Every noise makes them jump or gasp. The anticipation and darkness heightens every sense. It sounds cliche, but it works.
John Brownstone put me in such a position early on in our relationship. It wasn’t the first time I’d worn one but it was the first time with him. Our power exchange was firmly established so I knew who was in charge. Imagine my surprise when, for the next hour, every touch upon my skin was gentle, loving, and…teasing.
He did not touch my clit or finger me. No pinched nipples or even pulled hair. Gentle and firm strokes of his hands only. At the end of the hour of so much attention, I begged for an orgasm as my body trembled. It was more powerful because it was so gentle – we’re use to painful rough, play and this was anything but.
Why did he do it? Other than “Because you let me, babygirl” response? Because he wanted to watch me and learn how I reacted to his touch. And because he could. Nothing rough about it, but he was definitely in control.
Exhibitionist Play
Blindfolds take control over your sight but give you more freedom than you might realize. For the exhibitionist who isn’t sure if they can handle the reality of being seen, blindfolds are an option.
Naked and kneeling on the floor or bed. Barely dressed and tied to a chair. Standing to the side, waiting to be “of use.” The position a sub or bottom finds themselves in is limited only by what you both consent to and your imagination.
Blindfold firmly in place, you allow a (mutually agreed upon third) in the room. Are they allowed to touch and run their hands over your body in ways you can’t predict? Will they simply watch as your partner brings you pleasure in whatever kinky way you love?
The worries, fears, or embarrassment of watching someone watch you is gone. You can’t see anything, and (consensually) you’re not in charge. You now have the freedom to enjoy the moment.
Bringing in a Third…or Not
Sometimes the fantasy and your imagination can be as good – or better than – the real thing. Bringing in a third person to your kinky play can be fun and exhilarating, but it’s not always to easy to find someone you’d like to let in on such an intimate moment. Or maybe you feel reality can’t match the fantasy.
With a blindfold and a little creativity, the room can sound and feel like more than just the two of you are present.
Blindfold your partner and have them get into position. Walk into the room so that your partner knows you’re there and distract them with…anything. The gag in their mouth. A vibrator against their clit or cock. Nipple clamps. The kinky promises you whisper in their ear. Now, quietly go back to the door, and make noise as if a third person has arrived.
Talk to this “guest” and continue talking about your partner or to them so it’s clear they’re the object of you and your “guest’s” desire. The mind is a powerful thing, and even if they know no one is there, they may wonder, “Could there be?”
Impact Play
For us, impact play is our main kink. It’s our go-to anytime we want to play. I love being hit, and he loves hitting me. Using blindfolds in an impact play scene makes it more intense.
Again, it’s cliche, but it works.
He always lightly touches me with a toy to tease me before he uses it. So I know what’s coming, and so I can anticipate the impact. That small little touch makes me wet and achy for him.
Blindfolded, I don’t always know where he is around me, especially for a scene in the BDSM club. The music is loud so I can’t hear him. He’s got 360 degree access which means he could be anywhere. And just because he touches me gently with a toy on one side doesn’t mean that’s where the first strike will land.
The not-knowing what it’s coming or where it’ll land intensifies my reaction. It’s always a surprise, and it’s always more painful. My entire body reacts in confusion – tight nipples and soaked pussy but also goosebumps and trembling, and I may or may not gnaw my lip with a little worry. It’s glorious!
Blindfolds get a bad rep for being boring or cliched. And they can be. Maybe you tried them long ago and just weren’t that sure about it. As long as it’s not a hard limit, feel free to try it again.
Having control over your partner doesn’t have to involve sharp commands, strict discipline, or high protocol. Sometimes it’s as simple as removing their sight for a while and surprising them at every touch.
Okay, we know this isn’t the only way to play with blindfolds. Feel free to share your favorite scenes in the comments below!
