Online BDSM: Safety Tips In A Virtual Session
It will come as no surprise when we tell you 2020 saw not just a jump, but an eruption in the number of people starting up their computers for some BDSM fun and games. Due to the pandemic, gatherings, parties, and clubs were shuttered as the virus kept us all at home. Just because we couldn’t go out and interact with others, that didn’t mean we didn’t want to express our kinky side and meet partners for some fetish fun. But without leaving our homes, how could we do it?
Well, that’s where live cam platforms came in and filled the void for so many people worldwide. Instead of dressing up, packing a bag, and venturing out – the BDSM world went virtual. And even as the world reopened and we can once again venture out and reconnect with community players, a new, virtual scene in BDSM has already cemented itself as an integral part of many people’s sex lives. It doesn’t replace bricks and mortar dungeons and play parties – rather it adds to them.
The benefits of online BDSM hook-ups are multifold. You can meet a partner from thousands of miles away. You can choose from hundreds of like-minded players, people that you would otherwise never get a chance to meet. And, of course, you can do it when you want, day or night, all without having to leave your home. But, like everything in life, there are always downsides. There are things to watch out for when you are with an online partner – issues that rarely come up in the real world.
Safety Foreplay
Firstly, and most importantly, if you are by yourself, do not get into any situation that you cannot easily extract yourself from. By that, we mean getting tied up in knots or cuffed up and being unable to loosen your bindings or free yourself. If you cannot set yourself free, it could lead to a potentially awkward call to a friend, neighbor or a very embarrassing 911 call. Worse, you could injure yourself.
Before trying rope-games, practice tying knots you can undo easily. If you use handcuffs, make sure they are the sort that can be unlocked with a safety latch using one finger. Having the key fall to the ground where you cannot retrieve it will not make for a great ending to any session.
If you are about to start a live video chat online BDSM session, chances are that you are by yourself, but do not assume no-one else is around. Make sure all the curtains are closed and blinds are drawn. If you are not alone in the house but start a session with just you and your webcam partner involved, make sure the door to the room is locked. If there are others around – check those locks. And remember that sounds travel. A pair of Bluetooth headphones are worth investing in. You don’t want anyone banging on the door or eavesdropping on your kinky convo.
Never Ever Do This Alone
There are certain acts that pose a level of danger, even death, if you attempt them by yourself. Don’t become a headline in the local paper due to a game of autoerotic asphyxiation gone wrong. Some online BDSM performers are extremely skilled in the genre and will share their experience or teach you how to get the best high from choking as you masturbate. If it’s your first time trying autoerotic asphyxiation, or scarfing as it is also called, take small steps. Skilled pros at the art can tell you what safeguards to have in place to ensure nothing goes wrong. But at the end of the day, this is one niche act that we do not recommend you do alone, under any circumstances.
How To Protect Your Privacy
There are many cam sites out there featuring fetish hosts looking for a partner. In addition to your physical safety, you also need to protect yourself from online predators out to cause pain – and not in the good way. Being sucked dry is great – unless it’s your bank account. Only visit legitimate and recommended fetish cam sites. Do your research beforehand to see which of the best fetish cam sites have good reviews.
Whatever you do, never ever, ever give out financial info to your online partner while using a cam site, even if you are in the middle of a Findom session. Talk in generalities. You pay the live video chat site itself. Under no circumstances should you ever pay the model directly. If a performer asks you to transfer money to them and bypass the site, report them immediately to the platform they are broadcasting from. No model should ever ask for payment. And certainly, don’t share personal info such as your phone number or address. This is all make-believe. There is never a legit reason why your online BDSM partner needs to know where you live or how to contact you. A generic email address is the most you should give. And then, make sure it is not connected to your work or personal email account.
Now that you know these rather simple safety protocols, you’re ready to let yourself go and enjoy your online BDSM experience to the fullest.
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